The old man’s heart and children know how much
Recently, have you been accompanying your parents for shopping, whether you have dinner with your parents, whether you are chatting with your parents. It’s the Nine-Year Chongyang Festival. If you forget these things, I hope you will stop again today and in the days to come.Forgot to care for your parents.
In fact, 70% of the elderly have psychological problems.
Mind 1: The children are over-stressed, but the old man is not mentally 89-year-old Wu Lao and his wife originally lived alone. Later, the daughter bought a large house of more than 150 square meters and decided to take the old man back to the housing room.
After the two old people went to catch up with their daughters on business, the female students were afraid of taking care of the elderly. They made breakfast for the elderly on the table, told the old people when they wanted to eat, when to get up again, and told them not to go to the street.In order to avoid the car touching.
At noon, my grandfather took a taxi and went home to cook for the old man. The two old people really took up their clothes to reach out and lived in the mouth.
Three months later, the two old people returned to their residences, and the old man who had cooked himself found that he would not cook.
Neighbors found that the old man did not have the spirit of the past, and the aging was very fast.
Experts puzzled: This is an age-old degeneration.
The less the elderly are exposed to things, the weaker their ability to adapt, and some even the things that would have been done will not be caused. This requires children to provide an independent living space for the elderly to do things every day.
Careful care for the elderly, in fact, will make the old man think that he is old, useless, psychologically withdraw from the world and accelerate aging.
Mind 2: Eat and wear, the lonely old man is “ill” Wang Auntie is 69 years old, his wife died two years ago, and his daughter works in the field.
Wang Auntie has a generous pension, she can’t eat it, she can’t wear it, but she always feels that there is something in her life. She often dazes in the empty room every day, and she still sighs.
Wang Auntie really wants her daughter to spend more time with her, or talk to her daughter a few more calls, but she is afraid of affecting her daughter’s work.
Wang Da Niang was annoyed, and gradually she found herself with chest pain, leg pain, and uncomfortable feeling.
On the phone, her daughter knew that her mother was ill. She hurriedly took her leave from Changsha to Changchun and accompanied her mother to the major hospitals to see a doctor. However, she went to major hospitals and did various kinds of examinations, that is, she could not find out.
The daughter can be anxious, and finally, under the doctor’s reminder, the daughter brought Wang Auntie to the psychological research institute to see the psychiatrist.
Experts puzzled: Wang Auntie actually did not get sick, or because of the psychological problems of loneliness, but he was not willing to express his emotions, and adopted a method of depression, which has been suppressed for a long time.An irrational expression, that is, a physical transformation disorder, which is more likely to occur in the elderly.
Some elderly people, because of their extreme eagerness for their children’s attention, admit that they are “ill” in the internal mind and subconscious, “can’t do it”, and even pee in the bed and pull it in the pants.
When this happens, it is necessary to think about the psychological problems of the elderly in a timely manner. Take her to see a psychiatrist and care more about her.
Mind 3: The empty nest old man hopes that a companion Zhang Auntie’s wife has got lung cancer. She met Zhao’s grandfather when she was taking care of her husband in the hospital.
At that time, Uncle Zhao’s wife also got a serious illness. Two people were connected with each other. Coupled with the same age, there are naturally many words.
Later, the husbands of two people passed away. Although the family conditions of both sides were very good, the two old people felt that they couldn’t talk to their children, so they often talked together and gradually the old man had the idea of rebuilding the family.
However, when they said that they were exported, they were strongly opposed by the daughters and daughters of both sides. So the two old people no longer dared to mention marriage, and they did not dare to meet.
Both sides feel more and more uncomfortable. Zhang Auntie is unhappy every day, and she doesn’t say anything, eats less, and sleeps badly.
Later, when she was placed in a psychological clinic by her daughter, after the doctor’s guidance, the old man cried awkwardly. “It’s so old, I don’t want to drag my children, I want to have a partner around me, even if there is something, someone around me helps.The phone is OK too!
Experts confuse: empty nesters are easy to get this occult depression, manifested as insomnia, less words, bad diet.
The old man always has some of his own experiences and psychological words that are not understood by young people. When you are old, you want to have a partner. At this time, when children want to fully overcome the opinions of the elderly, don’t be too selfish and hinder themselves.The feelings.
It is necessary to fully consider the situation of the elderly and to know the material satisfaction, not the entire needs of the elderly.
The elderly also have “five fears”. In fact, in addition to a lot of thoughts, the elderly also have “five fears.”
I am afraid that the awareness of the closed old people will be degraded by the growth of age, and the elderly are reluctant to accept new things.
Facts have proved that the more closed the elderly, the faster they age, the more they think that they are not in harmony with this society, so that getting the elderly out of the closed environment will be more conducive to the health of the elderly. If the elderly can be as loyal to the Internet as some people are., tourism, then the elderly will be physically happy and reduce the incidence of disease.
I am afraid that when I am young, I often hope that when I am old, I will have no worries and no need to work.
However, when you are old, you will find that the spirit is untrustworthy and you can’t afford to be able to do it every day. When you are old, you should do something a little bit. Even if you help people send newspapers and collect water and electricity bills, you can let themLife is full and reduces the incidence of depression.
I am afraid that the lonely old man is most afraid of being alone, no one is accompanying.
But today’s young people are working outside, and there is very little time to spend time with their parents. At this time, the elderly should come out, participate in some group activities, make more friends, find a few people who can talk, and stay away.Lonely, optimistic and upward emotions will benefit the elderly.
Some people say that they are called Andu’s later years. The age of the elderly is increasing, and the psychological capacity is lower. The most unbearable changes in life, even if it is only a small frustration, the old man does not think about rice for several days.
In fact, once there is a change, the family will give the elderly more attention and psychological solutions.
People who are afraid of disease are old and weak. Some diseases often invade the body of the elderly. The old-age mentality of suffering from diseases will become more and more fragile and lose confidence in life. Such bad mood can easily lead to the deterioration of the disease.The health of the elderly is extremely unfavorable.Such an elderly person needs to see a psychiatrist frequently to conduct psychological counseling, which is conducive to his optimistic mood, victory over disease, health and longevity.
Talking to my parents, Professor Zheng Xiaohua said that the elderly have poor adaptability to the society, social activities have shrunk, and their value recognition has been reduced. The psychological gap has caused them to accept new things in society, and the elderly will become stubborn and difficult to communicate.
At this time, children should become listeners of the elderly, do not argue with the elderly, become more and more happening to the elderly, and encourage the elderly.
For example, the old man should pat him when he is defecation. “It’s really good. The bowel movements are always so regular, and the body is definitely fine.”
“The old man will understand that he is doing well, stick to it, and let the elderly accept more new things, exercise more, and participate in some group activities.”
The society should also pay more attention to the elderly, and some better ways to participate in the elderly.